When soldiers kill women and children, we shrug and say, "That's war."
When a couple soldiers go missing, we wring our hands and forget that THAT is "just war."
When and how did soldiers become the most important people in our society?
The Chinese say: "Don't waste good metal to make a horseshoe nail; don't waste a good man as a soldier."
Remember the kind of places where soldiers were and are the most important people? Where they had first choice of the best and the right to respect and life, before anybody else in the society? Remember what happens to those societies, and what soldiers do to people?
Do we really want to live in a place like that?